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Facing Insecurity, Laziness, and Misplaced Criticism

Have you ever encountered someone who seems to have an issue with you—not because of anything you’ve done, but because of the things they’ve imagined in their own minds? Often, this stems from insecurities they refuse to confront. Rather than facing their own lack of vision or motivation, they project their frustration onto others. Instead of building something for themselves, they tear others down. It’s draining to deal with, but as believers, we need wisdom to respond to such situations with grace and strength.

Let’s start with Proverbs 19:15:

“Slothfulness casts into a deep sleep, and an idle person will suffer hunger.”

People who waste their lives sleeping, complaining, and demanding from others are trapped by their own laziness. They’ve allowed their potential to be buried under excuses and self-pity. And instead of working on their own lives, they spend their energy criticizing those who are actually trying to move forward. Laziness isn’t just a habit—it’s a spiritual stronghold.

Jesus speaks to this kind of misplaced focus in Matthew 7:3-5:

“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”

Those who bash others because of their own insecurities are blind to their own need for transformation. Instead of addressing their internal struggles, they fixate on the successes or flaws of others. It’s easier for them to tear someone down than to admit they need to get up and do the work themselves.

Here’s where it gets challenging: It’s tempting to want to distance ourselves completely from such people. And while setting boundaries is essential, we’re also called to reflect Christ Jesus. Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” It’s okay to speak the truth boldly, but we do it to correct and guide, not to tear down.

What Can We Do?

1. Pray for Them.

As hard as it is, these individuals need prayer. Their insecurity and laziness often come from deep wounds or a lack of understanding about their purpose in God’s Kingdom. Pray for their vision to be restored. Pray for their hearts to be softened. And pray for wisdom in how to respond to them.

2. Set Boundaries.

While we’re called to love, we’re not called to enable. 2 Thessalonians 3:10 reminds us: “If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.” It’s okay to refuse to carry someone else’s load when they won’t even pick it up themselves.

3. Don’t Engage in Their Negativity.

People like this thrive on complaining and criticizing, but don’t give them the satisfaction of dragging you into their toxic cycle. Instead, redirect the conversation to truth and accountability. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Be firm, but don’t allow their negativity to pull you into frustration or anger.

4. Model Vision and Discipline.

Sometimes, the best way to handle such people is to show them what it looks like to live with purpose. Colossians 3:23 reminds us, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” When we stay focused on our calling, our example may inspire others to rise out of their complacency.

Finally, let’s anchor this teaching in Galatians 6:4-5:

“But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load.”

We are each responsible for the life we build or tear down. While some may refuse to do the work, expecting others to carry their burdens, God calls us to accountability, diligence, and perseverance. We cannot let others’ lack of vision distract us from our purpose.

Keep pressing forward, setting boundaries, and walking in love. Let your life be a testimony of what’s possible when you trust in God and refuse to let insecurity, laziness, or criticism hold you back. Stand firm, speak truth, and shine brightly in the purpose God has given you.

In His Grace and Mercy,

Your sister in Christ Jesus,

Jeannie Walker

Owner, Forged in Faith Ministries©️